Is Teletherapy Awkward?
It might sound weird to do virtual therapy when you are used to in person care. I get it, it’s my second choice too. Yet it can be very effective, and this is thanks to our cranial nerves. Two of the main ways we interact through the world and with other people is with our eyes and our ears. In virtual care we can still respond to each other’s cues. You will be able to tell that I am listening to you, by how I respond verbally, through my posture and my eye contact. I will be able to respond to you, hold a safe space for processing, and be “with” you. Take it for a spin… Overall, many folks I work with have expressed initial skepticism and quickly realize it offers similar benefits to in person care. PS- you can shrink the little video of yourself in the top corner if you don’t want to look at yourself! PPS- Teletherapy does not need to be a forever, we will return to in person care eventually! But even after we return back it can be a nice option for those days you have a cold or can’t otherwise fit in the appointment.
I’ve never talked to anyone. I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?
Not at all. I have so much respect for the people who sit in front of me, and know from my own experience how scary, but also healing it can feel to sit on the couch. There can be so much benefit to having a safe space to be real about what you think and feel. You can test out how to say those tough conversations. This takes inner strength and willingness to show up for yourself. So no, I don’t think you’re weak. I think you are a badass!
What’s the difference between talking to you or my best friend or family?
Well for start, I really really try my best to be neutral. Friends and family might not be too good at that. Maybe the best part of this is that I’m not your friend or family, I’m a professional with lots of training and experience to offer you. Also, therapy is confidential, so you won’t have to worry about others “knowing my business”. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t talk to friends and family, I would never say that. We don’t heal in a bubble and support is important, but they are different relationships. In my experience from going to therapy, sitting on the couch has helped me understand myself better, and my personal relationships have really benefited from this. I now go to my friends and family with purpose to talk about some things and to my therapist to talk about some things, and that choice feels empowering to me.
Why shouldn’t I just take medication?
Medication can be effective but it alone cannot solve all issues, often there are residual symptoms or side effects. Just like talk therapy, medication is not a magic wand. Talk therapy can really help, either by itself or as a complement to medication. Our work together is designed to explore and unpack the symptoms and challenges you are experiencing and arm yourself with a toolbox of coping skills that can help you feel better and accomplish your personal goals. The choice to be on medication is very personal, and we can talk about my recommendation for you once I know more about your symptoms and needs. If you do need medication I have a provider who I trust that I can refer you to.
How does it work? What do I have to do in sessions?
Just bring yourself. You are enough. We will figure out a flow together. I offer a variety of interventions and everything is tailored to the person. Some people benefit from a lot of structure, some with more of a free flow. I will tailor my intervention to you.
How often will we meet?
Therapy is a weekly commitment. If you can not imagine how to make that work, I encourage you to consider all of the times you say “yes” to something, and if all of those “yesses” serve you. What is your “why” to make time for yourself weekly? Weekly care means active small goals and self exploration, which over time can have significant ripple effects.
How long will it take?
Ooh, that’s a tough question to answer on a FAQ page. We are constantly growing and developing, how long it will take you to reach your goals depends on what your challenges, needs and goals are. There are beginning, middle, and end stages to therapy, and it is not my intention to keep you here forever. My goal is to help you not just decrease your symptoms but understand the roots that sprouted them to begin with. If impulses to end are sneakily motivated by wanting to avoid looking at something, or because your symptoms are down and you just want to be better already that might mean you are shifting to a new stage of therapy, but that we can still do important work together.
I want to get the most out of therapy. What can I do to help?
Show up. Show up on the good days, but especially on the bad days when you are filled with uncomfortable emotions and you want to stay in bed in your pajamas. Show up. Reflect on what we talked about between sessions. Use your coping skills. Notice those unhelpful thoughts and try to add in a dose of self compassion. Name your emotions. Write things down. Notice what you want to stay silent about. Break the silence. Keep showing up.